We need to find the courage to say no to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.~Barbara de Angelis
What Do You Really Believe?
In our last post, Doug and I shared our thoughts on beliefs and how they shape who we are.
It’s important to examine what we think are truths and decide if our beliefs fit in with who we are today.
Many beliefs are installed in us when we’re young and we never question them.
This leads to going through life on autopilot where decisions are made based on ideas that we may not really believe in anymore…
I used to think that money was somehow bad and dirty… Doing something for love and not expecting compensation was somehow better than being paid fairly for your efforts… It’s easy to see how such a belief can lead to frustration.
That Was Then, This Is Now
It’s time to take stock of your core beliefs and decide if you wish to keep them or create new ones to replace them. We all hold sacred “truths” for every situation imaginable, so the exercise below will guide you through getting to know the basic, catch all topics of life.
As you work through these other beliefs will pop into your thoughts. Everyone will go about this differently. Follow your thoughts… As you progress you’ll get in touch with more focused beliefs. The process becomes easier as you do it.
Grab a piece of paper and make a list of beliefs that you hold about the following topics:
- Who Am I?
Write down every belief you hold for these topics, and for any others that are important to you. Maybe you want to add love, or family or volunteering to your list… Go ahead! Get a feel for what’s driving your decisions in life. It may take more than one sitting to get through everything…
Keep going until you don’t have anything else to write. Is money evil? Dirty? Power? Unimportant? Get it all down on paper…
Now, take each belief you wrote down, read it and write the opposite next to it. For example, “I have to work hard to get ahead” has the opposite of “I get ahead easily”. Even if the opposite makes you uncomfortable, write it down.
Go to the top and read each belief and its opposite. Which one speaks to you? Which one would you rather have? Circle the one that resonates with you.
When you get through your list re-write all of the circled beliefs. This is your new operating system… This is what you REALLY believe. Get rid of the ones that don’t speak to you anymore and replace them with the new list.
Keep your list handy and read through it often. You need to re-program your mind and become the true you. It is that easy…