Take The Time To Know Others.

Look inward for change.

Look inward for change.

Doug and I just returned from the retirement community we visit every Saturday morning. Often the little monkeys accompany the wife and the big monkeys, but not today.

There’s a resale shop that is run by volunteers of the community. We go every Saturday morning and have coffee and eat homemade baked goodies with the friends we’ve made there. Our chickens lay more eggs than we can eat so we bring the extras to share…

It’s nice to spend some time with those who are a couple generations ahead of us (or more!)… From what they tell us, there isn’t much interaction going on between people at different stages in life… And that’s a shame.

We look forward to our weekly visits as a family, including the teenage monkeys. Daughter two is particularly attached to a sweet woman who works behind the jewelry counter. She reminds her of my mother, who we lost three years ago…

I feel it’s valuable for the little monkeys to socialize with our older friends. It often seems that children don’t even see older people, like they don’t exist. Sitting around the table on Saturday mornings, my daughters have learned that just because someone is 60 (or 75!) years older than you, they still have valid thoughts and insights to share… And they can be hilarious too!

No matter how old or young we are, we view the world with the eyes of our “inside” self, who seems to always be around 20ish years old. I sometimes forget that 20 was a long time ago for me… I believe my buddy Red does too, and he’s 87. I think we’re all learning to take the time to sit, and go a bit deeper in our understanding of others on Saturday mornings…

Everyone benefits from our weekly visits. Our friends get to socialize with the “youngsters” and my daughters minds and worldview are expanded… And Doug, the wife and I get homemade cookies!



  1. Very nice! I have had experience with retirement communities. Only when someone I love is in one and I agree: We all feel young. Like about 20 years old on the inside. What a wonderful thing you are doing for yourselves, others and your children.

    1. Thank you! We really do look forward to our weekly visits. It’s a nice ritual to start off the weekend.

  2. Paul J. Stam · · Reply

    Yes, there is very little interaction between the elderly and the younger generation. I am over 80 and do my pottery at the local junior college. It is great to be accepted by “up and coming” even though I don’t know the latest about texting, iphones and all the latest. Incidentally, I want to thank you for letting me know that you liked my post, “if A Second You Still Don’t” on papermudandme.wordpress.com. – Thanks and Aloha – pjs.

    1. Hi Paul, thanks for stopping by. Your work caught my attention as I was browsing through the reader. I’m a sculptor myself, and enjoy seeing the work of others.

      It’s nice to hear that you have a similar story about the different generations interacting and getting along. We all have value to add to a conversation, and we all can learn from each other.

  3. Older people have great stories to tell. I’ve been amazed by some of the stories my Dad has been telling me over the past few years. I’m writing some of his stories down about growing up in Wisconsin, working on a dairy farm and his time in Korea and Vietnam. He remembers so much! (of course some of the Vietnam stuff he’d like to forget) Some of the best stories are about how he courted my Mom. He’s in his 80’s now and the stories get better and better as he gets older. Asking questions about memories might be fun. You could ask about their adventures, vacations, their work, courtship, parenting…. lessons they’ve learned. They have so much to teach us.

  4. Thanks for reminding us! Sometimes it’s hard to rememeber, and I need to refresh my memory every day 🙂

    1. It’s easy to get wrapped up in our own lives, at least for me it is.

  5. Very, very, very, very nice John…

  6. Very, very, very, very, very, very, very nice John…

    1. Thanks… We really enjoy our visits. It’s good to see older people leading full and exciting lives… It’s how I want to be.

  7. I whole-heartedly agree with this-My work, professionally and as a volunteer, is primarily with elder folks. The wisdom and humilty to be gained, as well as the positive impact we have on their lives should not be underestimated! Thanks for sharing this.

  8. Heavens -I just turned 60 in September and not only do I continue to work(part time) as an international taxation lawyer in the city of London I am also doing a 2year program in English literature Oxford university and I’ve just finished writing my third novel (none of which sadly-have yet been published

    1. It’s good to stay busy. Have you considered self publishing for your novels? I ask because I’m thinking about that avenue myself. Any thoughts?

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